My Patronus Is Bruce Springsteen
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Nastya Kusakina at Tadashi Shoji, fall 2013
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splurged on this beautiful Tadashi Shoji dress today. i deserve it :) #treatyoself
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queer hogwarts kids making buttons w/ preferred pronouns on them that are charmed to yell when ppl use the wrong ones
(via greenchestnuts)
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I remember posting somewhere once in a thread about why girls aren’t exploited in animation anymore where some guy said, “all the disney girls are drawn to be generally attractive, but I don’t think there are any eye-candy men… or are there? Are there any Disney men that lots of girls like?” and I mentioned Roger. Tons of girls replied agreeing with me and the original guy was like “wait, Roger? from 101 Dalmatians? What’s attractive about him, he’s tall and lanky and has a big nose, he isn’t muscley at all! Wouldn’t you all prefer Gaston or something? Or do you girls think his big nose is indicative of something else?” and I was like “no, you idiot, he’s a silly, goofy guy who likes animals and can play a bunch of instruments, that’s why he’s attractive. What’s the matter with you? Gaston, seriously?”
This is why we need more girls in animation. And more guys like Roger apparently.
This is why I laugh my ass of whenever dudes talk about how men are “objectified” by the media too. Because 9 times out of 10, what men think is “women objectifying men” are characters like Gaston.
And Gaston is NOT a woman-driven fantasy. Gaston is a male wish fulfillment fantasy. Gaston is not what women want, he is what men want to be. He is hyper-masculinity to an extreme degree, dripping with sexism and testosterone. The fact that men think that Gaston is what women want says an awful lot about those men.
While I don’t want to generalize, female fans tend to prefer a very different kind of male hero. We like the Rogers, the Milos, the Hercules. Genuinely kind, often awkward men who are sometimes vulnerable and respectful to women.
Yes, this is a generalization. I own up to that. But I think it’s important to remember that there is often VERY big difference between what MEN want to be and what women (not all of whom are even attracted to men) WANT to see in our media.
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Tadashi Shoji
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Every time my grad student roommate’s three-year old daughter comes to visit, I’m again reminded of why I don’t want children.
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Instead of giving Aaliyah’s unreleased music to lame singers and rappers to remix, how about Blackground just release her unreleased music. Its really annoying. I just want to listen to Aaliyah. Aaliyah can hold her own. Man, fuck you Blackground.
“I just want to listen to Aaliyah. Aaliyah can hold her own”
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(via bruce-is-b0ss)
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charcuterie shop in zagreb, croatia.
One of the things I adore about the Balkans is that you have literally a zero percent chance of encountering asshole vegans—or any vegans at all, tbh—because they’d probably starve to death trying to live there.
(via allthingscroatia)
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but if greece wins
who pays for eurovision next year?????
(via jillbiden)
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(via incidenton57thstreet)
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Meet Me In the Margins: A Shift in Focus: Why I've Chosen to Say "Consent-Positive" Rather Than "Sex-Positive" Refusing to give consent should never be framed as negative or any less exciting or valid a choice than choosing to give consent for sex acts. And while I’ll admit to rarely experiencing outright exclusion (entitled vibes notwithstanding) at refusing sex in a sex-positive community there is a disproportionate amount of praise for those who consent to participate and support sex/play in sex-positive communities. Saying “yes” is framed as empowering and to give one’s consent is “sexy”. Which can and often does imply that a “no” or hesitation is a problem or “less cool/liberated”. Hesitation and refusal are totally valid expressions of uncertainty and deserve respect. The framing of “consent is sexy” can, in some applications, invalidate this vital uncertainty.
Good article. “Sexiness” is not the right standard by which to value either consent-as-situation (“Wow, I’m really into this!”) or consent-as-practice (“So, uh, do you wanna have sex?”). My response is in the comments.
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I need masculism so I won’t have to speak my whole arguments and reveal how self-centred I am. “Men get raped too” really means “Men get raped too so stop talking about the fact that women get raped a lot more often, usually by men.” It doesn’t sound as good when you say it out loud, so I need masculism to obfuscate debate rather than add to it.
(via lemonesorbet)
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my life would have been at least 280% easier and less angst-ridden if someone had mentioned asexuality to me before middle school (or high school, or college)
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